Stop being a doormat

With today’s world surrounding social networking sites, it comes as no surprise when I see personal status updates on friends’ pages. You know the familiar updates of a boyfriend caught cheating; girlfriends who are too clingy; and the infamous breakup status.

Today I was on a friend’s Facebook page (and no I’m no stalker, I just like to be up-to-date with what’s going on in the lives of my friends) – no need to mention the friend’s name – I noticed something very interesting: why is it that we – you and me – fail to reciprocate the attention given to us by another (friend, lover….family member etc.); instead we give them more face value than they are giving us?

Example: one may have a friend whom they consider to be their “best friend;” however, that “best friend” may only consider the person to be an acquaintance? How about another example: one may find interest in another person, however, that “other person” may not find the individual TO BE interesting….

So, did I lose you all? My point is this: don’t make someone a priority, if they only make you an option.

Now, you may be asking yourself, “how do I know if I’m an ‘option’ – shoot, how do i know if I’m a ‘priority?’”

It’s simple. If you are an option,you’ll  know it because your phone calls don’t get answered, your text messages are ignored…..along with emails; basically, they only contact you when it’s convenient for them; they talk to you when they have nothing better to do. Now, if you’re cool with that, then by all means, more power to you. If you’re not cool with that, I ask, what are you doing to change that?

Don’t worry, we’ve all been someone’s “option” at one point in our lives – shoot, some of us are still an “option.”